How to handle an intimidating person
Pretend you are outside the event watching as a bystander.Next, distort the images until the other person looks absurd. This covers the spectrum from higher ups at work, love interests, people we don't know at parties, popular people from school or the office, even celebrities. Often people we look up to (or those who we just don't know who seem cool) can bring up feelings we harbor about ourselves that we are not good enough, smart enough, interesting enough. We are all made from the same source and the truth is -- and this is repeated in many spiritual scriptures "we are all special and we are all not special." We are all equal, my friends. So, yeah, I'm a weak, imperfect person." Even wolves get scared! We are also beautifully different from one another, too -- which means all of us have some unique value and flavor to add to a conversation or social setting. Here are some reasons why other people should not intimidate you: 1. The fear of others is generated within us, not by the person in question.
Let us say the fear gives you alertness, safety and carefulness.
Get started by choosing someone who causes you to feel mild fear. Ask yourself -- what does it get me feeling fear around this person?
Typically you will answer that the fear causes you to be more alert and careful.
Bushong from The Seven Dumbest Relationship Mistakes Smart People Make Of course, if the person is a psychopath or something like that then this won't always apply but considering why the person is so aggressive can help you to understand the situation you're in and possibly give you some ideas on solutions.
The following is a guest article by Peter Murphy with his 4 tips on how to deal with aggressive people. and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers is regarded as a self help classic. I read it many years ago and I was disappointed by the content of this book that has helped a lot of people take control of their fears. Because I believe we all have the power to go far beyond feeling the fear.