Meet for sex without email
Because it just isn’t a real relationship until you’re sat opposite each other, drinking lattes.(And I’d always recommend a coffee date – you can always excuse yourself if the going isn’t great, and you don’t spend oodles of cash on expensive dinners with duds).What’s more, a study by dating site e Harmony, estimated that seven in ten couples will have done so by 2040 – with 55 to 64-year-olds experiencing the biggest boom (an expected 30 per cent rise between 20).Of course, exchanging a barrage of emails – even phone calls or Skyping– can seem more secure.But the simple truth is that messaging on the internet is nothing more than a fact-finding mission.You can gather information about the other person, but until you meet them you won’t know if ‘I love to laugh’ means Fawlty Towers or fart jokes. It’s easy to think you know a person better than you really do.Published in the Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication, it explains that there’s a ‘tipping point’ when it comes to online dating.Put simply, how soon you meet will have a direct effect on your chemistry. You could be consigning yourself to a disappointing date.
No, according to American researchers, the tipping point comes between 17 and 23 days after the first message is sent.But you also don’t want to put it off for too long. Well, there are things you can take away from it for next time. Should you avoid people who make grammatical errors in their profile? But answering these questions is a useful way to progress the process of online dating.After all, if someone is keen to arrange a date with you, they won’t keep fighting for someone they don’t really know forever. Many match-making websites now have their own blogs, or guides advising you how and when to meet – among other tips – that you might find useful.You can tell more about a person in half an hour, than weeks of emailing. “It's always better to meet an online date sooner than later - it's too easy to message endlessly, and you need to find out whether you have chemistry off-screen before you down a flirty emoticon rabbit hole that could last for weeks or months,” she explains.“Try not to message for more than two weeks, and if you're nervous, you could always speak on the phone first.